When certain people call for a “dialogue on race”, or to have a”national conversation about prejudice” what they are actually telling you is that you are invited to be insulted as a racist and/or bigot if you disagree with what they have to say. A “dialogue” can also mean you are going to hear a monologue. “Come to an understanding” or “a compromise” means you must come to think exactly as those certain people do.
Currently, to say “all lives matter” means you are really saying you don’t care about black lives. “Hard work” and “success” means you were actually just privileged. “Respecting the freedom of speech and thought,” means silencing opposing views by any means necessary. “Telling the truth to power,” often means lying to the people to advance an agenda.
“Open-mindedness” is a word that means being thoroughly close-minded about most debate topics. “Respect for others” means “I’m scared to death of what some others may do to me if I speak my mind.” “Let’s think about this,” usually means the person is going to feel their way through. “Everyone is entitled to their own opinion” means a person who has never thought about an issue is equally qualified to write an op-ed to one who thinks long and hard about the same issue.
When someone says, “let’s consider the context” it often means they wish to do away with individual responsibility, and will attempt to explain away crime or violence with references to poverty, lackluster education systems, colonialism, imperialism, poor parenting, and so on. “Understanding where someone comes from” means to consider mitigating factors for drug dealers and gang bangers (Note: this phrase does not apply to a police officer who breaks the law and was born to impecunious parents, raised in a violent neighborhood, was product of a horrid school, and reared by a single mother.)
Saying you want to “protect the border” means you hate Mexicans. “Diversity in the classroom” means uniformity of intellectual thought.
“To take a more complex view” usually means to not consider complexity or nuance, but instead use a more convoluted language to make it seem sophisticated.
When you hear “how well we treat our criminals reflects the type of society we are” that means how ever much we can disrespect and disparage police officers also shows the type of society we are.
To hear the phrase, “There is nothing in Islam that condones violence,” means that the person who says it has never read the Koran or Hadiths. (Likewise, “The Bible is a book of love” means people are selectively choosing the parts that are indeed loving but ignoring the bloodbath and bigotry elsewhere.)
If you hear the terms “free and affordable” that means you will usually end up paying and paying more. “Informed voter” usually means an ideologue is heading to the booth. “Peaceful protestors” often mean rioters and rabble-rousers (they give themselves away with their slogan: “no justice, no peace.”) “Justice” now means to take a current case and use it to atone for national sins of the past.
“Science” no longer means the cool-headed, open-minded study of nature, but instead means “the debate is over.” Using the phrase “that’s science!” means shut up and stop thinking, just accept what others are telling you. Of course, referencing “forensic science” in relation to a crime means that you are bias and prejudice toward minorities. That science doesn’t count.
“All the facts point to” means that someone looked up only one set of facts to support his or her viewpoint, and is utterly clueless to the other side’s case. “All the experts agree” means, of course, not all the experts agree.
I could go on, but you get the point. Whenever you engage in a conversation with these certain Americans who use such words and phrases, be prepared to constantly decode the words coming out of their mouths.